I read a study conducted by the Pew Research Center about how households rely on two-parent incomes more now than a decade ago. That means there are more women like me trying to balance a career, marriage, children and a social life at the same time feeling the pressure of having to do it all right. Most of that pressure is self-inflicted but non-the-less it is present. Like many of you reading this you have asked yourself this question, “Can I have it all?” Can I have a successful career, a handsome husband and keep him happy, respectful kids and a social life meaning time with friends or a massage and still look like a #rockstar when I step out the door each morning? Let’s keep it real, sometimes work is stressful and 40 hour weeks turn into 50 and 60 hours. The kids will have to eat take-out a day or two during the week and your husband will express that he misses you because you are working so much.
You are one person, I am one person. There are times I wish I could clone myself but either technology is not available to the general public yet and if it was I could not afford it. Having it all seems impossible all the time or for some, most of the time. There are two things I have found that can allow you to have it all. I once attended the Women’s Conference hosted by Maria Shriver at the Long Beach Convention Center where Valarie Jarrett was the guest speaker while she as an advisor to President Obama. She discussed how she achieved work-life-balance and the key to her secret sauce was her father. He helped with errands, pick-ups from school and other to-do’s on her list. With that I was reminded that #havingitall means having a #supportsystem in place that will help pick up some of the slack. You either have a support system inherently with close relatives or parents nearby or you can build one organically with close friends and extended family members.
Alternative to having a support system the second thing that is key to having it all is giving yourself the power and courage to define your own happiness. Maintain accountability for your success but release the pressure you put on yourself to achieve the things that are unrealistic expectations of others or stem from how you want others to perceive you. You must set priorities for yourself and manage the expectations of yourself and just say “to hell” with the rest of it.